Forgiveness can change your life. Forgiveness does not mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. It doesn’t even mean the other person will change his behavior — you cannot control that. All it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.
It’s not easy. But you can learn to do it !
And let me tell you time heals . So keep patience . If it’s your fault accept it and try to rectify it that’s what you can do. If it’s his/her fault forgive them. As realized with time nothing is going to be permanent, think if that person will not be there what we will do with their fault or wrong done to you.
The more you will discuss these things with others the more it’s going to mess your head. I tried that too. I don’t think anyone can truly understand what you are going through. Revenge & Blame game or abuse won’t take you anywhere. Don’t think bad about them or yourself. It’s life people makes mistake all the time what important is that you want to rectify it and will not repeat it again.
Just accept it whatever your reality is. Don’t try to fight it. Cry as much as u want. May be someday you will learn to live with it. The person that did you wrong is not forgiven for the act and when they are forgiven it does not mean what they did was ok. You must forgive to release yourself of that person and the anger you are carrying. It releases you of carrying the BAD that was done to you and you become free of that person.
Make yourself much busy that if you are a working person start taking your work more seriously. Start developing some hobbies like planting, cooking, painting, dancing out with your friends keep yourself busy. Start giving you more time and do what you love.
Everyone sent to your life is teaching you a lesson. Then, after you learn your lesson from him/her that hurt you, let it go. Remember forgiveness is a choice. It’s something that you have to do for yourself, so that you can move on without carrying the extra weight around.
Lastly I want to share a quote by mahatma Gandhi ji “Nobody can hurt you without your permission”. When you forgive someone that means you don’t give them permission to hurt you anymore.