Toxic Positivity is destructive and unrealistic optimism, the denial that sadness has a place and a purpose in life, and the dismissal of the reality that sometimes things are not okay.
But, you need to understand that there exists a spectrum of emotions, because you are supposed to feel them every now and then. That is what makes you human, and allows you to live life. By rejecting them, you may be doing yourself great harm.
Remember that it is okay, important and therapeutic even, to feel your difficult feelings. Psychologists around the world say that by avoiding them and leaving them unprocessed, you may make them bigger.
Everybody’s battle is different. You are fighting your own. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. When you accept your emotions, you may process them better by decreasing their intensity. The key is to understand that emotions are not good or bad, and positive or negative. They are just a way to guide you through whatever it is that you are going through in life.
A classic example would be someone telling you that things are not so bad, as opposed to telling you that they realize you are not doing okay, and that they are there for you, should you want to talk to them.
There is a common example of optimism that I’ve heard many times in the past—a glass being full or empty. There are many responses to that question: “At least the glass has something!” or “It’s not much, but it’s better than nothing!” and so on…
Let’s say you’re attending the funeral of a friend’s dead family member. With toxic positivity, it can lead to thoughts that may not seem bad to the person who is thinking it, but to others, it comes off as extreme—maybe even selfish.
It takes away from the fact that something bad has happened and it detaches you from certain situations. You try to see the good in things to the point where you just can’t make yourself unhappy, and yes, that maybe a benefit, but not in all cases. Sometimes you need to grieve. Sometimes you need to feel.
You can’t make someone feel happy if they do not by telling them to ‘look on the bright side’ or ‘keep your chin up’ We should feel pain also when it is there so that we can realize that something has happened actually and even should feel joy fully when in happy moment of life. As giving pain killer(Toxic positive dose) will for sometime may relieve us from pain and would not let us feel the actual situation which has effected and how body is responding which is very much important to know for treating it well.
It’s Ok to Cry loud in Sorrow and Laugh Loud in Joy!!