Compatible with Love

Beautiful couple having coffee on a date

Finding someone you’re truly compatible with in many ways isn’t easy. When you finally do find someone who checks all the boxes, it’s only natural to feel like maybe this could be “The One.” But before you jump to that conclusion, it’s important to know difference between compatibility and love because often they’re not the same thing, knowing the difference can prevent you from staying in a relationship that isn’t built on actual love.

“Compatibility means that you get along with somebody very well,” You’re probably aware of what that looks like. When you’re compatible with someone, you enjoy each other’s company, you like the same or similar hobbies, and you may even like to eat the same food. Most importantly, you have similar views on marriage and kids.

Love, on the other hand, is a deeper emotion that you feel for another person, it compels you to be near them, to help them, to support them, to nurture them, and to do everything you can to protect them. It makes your heart skip a beat and you want to be with that person all the time. It also has an emotional and sexual nature unlike compatibility, which doesn’t always.

Basically, being in compatible relationship means that you work well together, enjoy each other’s company and have a good time. You’re very in-sync but tend to act more like friends or friends with benefits, than two people who are actually n love .You can have compatibility without love, But you can’t have love without compatibility.

So here are signs you may be mistaking compatbility for love, according to experts.

1. Your Relationship Makes You Feel Safe

You’re content with how things are and everything seems to just work. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that because feeling safe in your relationship is important. It only becomes a problem, when you become overly dependent on your partner for safety. If you’re only with your partner because being single again is terrifying, you may be in relationship for wrong reasons.

2. You Don’t Feel The Need To Be Vulnerable

A relationship that’s based on love should make you feel alive, fulfilled, and a bunch of other emotions. “Compatibility is different from this,” “When you’re in love, you’re taking a risk by making yourself vulnerable.” You’ll know it’s love based on the emotional ups and downs you may experience with your partner. Although too many ups and downs in your relationship should make you feel both good and not-so-great emotions that signify you are moving past your comfort-zone.

3. You’d Describe Your Relationship As “Nice”

One of the most confusing issues for women is when she’s been dating someone who shares common values and interests, but the attraction is not there,” Without attraction, your relationship may not be right for you even if it is nice. Some push and pull, some degree of tension, is required in order to ignite the spark.” Without that spark, it’s going to be difficult to be happy long-term.

4. Your Partner Is Just Your Type But There Are No Surprises

If your relationship doesn’t surprise you or challenge you in any way, that’s compatibility and not necessarily love. “Many times, finding love is a matter of being open to dating outside of your ‘type,’ “Most couples are surprised that they fell in love with someone they never thought would be their forever love.”

5. There Are Things About Your Partner You Really Want To Change

If you have a list of things you want to change about your partner, you may be mistaking compatibility for love. Love is all about acceptance.

6. You Need To Constantly Remind Yourself That You’re In A Good Relationship

If you find yourself constantly thinking about your ideal relationship and what your current relationship lacks, then there’s a problem. When you’re in love, you don’t need to constantly remind yourself that you’re in a solid relationship with a partner you enjoy being around. If you feel like something is missing, maybe there is. May be time to reevaluate your situation.

7. You’re Not Completely Sure You See Them In Your Future

Compatibility is related to the values you hold close. The person you’re dating may have those similar values, which is great. But that’s not always enough to make a relationship successfully last long-term.

If you want a relationship that’s based on actual love, check your feelings. Being with someone you’re compatible with can make your life easier. But love, even with all its ups and downs, can make your life much happier in the long run.

Published by Priyanka

Priyanka holds a Master's degree in Human Resource and Law degree from reputed college (2016) and has previously worked with world top brands for offshore clients. In 2020, Priyanka quit her corporate job to become a professional blogger in India. Priyanka is highly passionate due to her strong determination, she has achieved a lot in her career and built a good repo. in a very short period. Her unique personality inspires every heart to be alive.

2 thoughts on “Compatible with Love

  1. The word nice is problematic in relationships we make. Compatibility is another complex issue and would prefer love compatibility rather than the other way round. One thing is when in a relationship, avoid make it the whole of everything and not forget friends or once who stood with us during tough times.

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    1. Rightly said Vishal, we should never forget our friends and our close ones and get lost in the love and relationship, it’s very important to keep a balance of everything in life which is important to us.

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